The most important thing in life is to find the perfect partner.
And finding the perfect man is no different, according to new research from Australian researchers.
Dr Andrew Smith from Griffith University’s School of Psychology and Human Development and his colleagues looked at the characteristics of prospective husbands and found they differed significantly in their own personal attributes, including how much they enjoy spending time with their partners, how much money they are willing to invest and their level of enjoyment with sex.
“We wanted to understand why men are attracted to their partners more than they are to women, what makes them tick, and why this can lead to sexual conflict,” Dr Smith told news.com.au.
“The results of this study suggest that these factors are not simply the result of social or cultural conditioning.”
The research, published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, found that, on average, men’s partner satisfaction scores were between one and two on a scale of 1-10, while women’s scores ranged from one to five.
The researchers also found that men’s partners had significantly lower self-reported satisfaction scores than women’s partners.
They said that, overall, men had a “higher level of satisfaction with their own physical and sexual attractiveness” and a “lower level of self-esteem”.
“What we see here is that men have lower levels of self esteem, which means that they feel less satisfied with their partner’s overall attractiveness,” Dr Scott Williams, lead author of the paper, said.
He said that while there was a range of factors at play, men were less likely to be satisfied with women’s attractiveness.
Dr Williams said that women had a tendency to be more self-conscious about their own appearance, while men have an even more pronounced tendency to focus on the attractiveness of their partners.
“It may be that the self-confidence and self-image that men develop from interacting with their wives and girlfriends may be more important to their own well-being than their own ability to fulfil the sexual desire of their partner,” Dr Williams said.
“While men may be able to recognise their own sexual attractiveness and their partner may not, the ability to see how attractive a partner is to them is a function of how attractive they perceive themselves to be to their partner.”
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